So I was thinking (I do that a lot) about this idea of showing up, being truly seen and living a brave life…
Have you ever given much thought to the idea of letting yourself be truly, genuinely seen?
There is a powerful, transformational experience that happens when we allow ourselves to be truly and intimately witnessed by another. We might do this by expressing our unbridled joy or sorrow, by taking a stand on something we feel in our heart, by sharing our heartaches or failures, by asking for what we need, and in so many other ways. However, it always means being authentically who we are, not who we think we are supposed to be…who we really are! That includes the parts of us that we don’t like and maybe don’t even want to admit that we have. Yikes!
So why do it?
Because this is where the true stuff of life is! This how we create true connection. And we humans are hard-wired for connection. This is what it means to truly live and love.
The thing is… we have to be brave enough to be vulnerable (defined by Brené Brown as risk, uncertainty and emotional exposure) and share our selves. Here’s the caveat, it must be with someone who has earned our trust and the right to hear our story.
Dr. Brené Brown has discovered from her 13 plus years of research at The University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work that “Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, accountability and authenticity.” I don’t know about you, but I want all of that. And, I’ve learned that I have to be willing to let myself be seen to get that. It’s scary, but it’s worth it.
When you bare yourself to someone, you are giving the gift of you, while at the same time showing that person that they matter. You let them into your intimate space. If you’ve ever done this and seen love, appreciation, acceptance, understanding and maybe even admiration on your friend or loved one’s face you know how transformative it can be. To truly be seen and loved for who you are is the most profound joy.
I’ve been practicing this in my life more and more these days, especially since I became certified in Brené Brown’s work. I have to say that although it has been scary and tough at times, it is really transforming the relationships that mean the most to me and I have never felt more true to my authentic self – more centered in my true self with all my imperfections. I have to say that I love the way I feel when I’m in this space. True…Real…Alive…Brave!
What do you think? Is it worth giving it a try?
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